The Giving Gifts Podcast - Shame Shift - Grieving Without Shame with Mary Jutila
When I made the list of individuals I wanted to have on this season, Mary was the first name I wrote…next to her name, I put question marks, telling myself that she wouldn't be interested in sharing on this podcast…I have never been more grateful to be totally wrong!
This episode explores the theme of suffering significant loss. "I live in happy, sad daily…every day I live in sad happy. There is not a day really that I can say is completely happy anymore, but I can also say, there is not a completely sad day." Mary shares life after losing a son, a husband, and, most recently, a daughter this past May.
Mary's story is a reminder of the reality that everyone goes through losing someone; some people lose more than others. It doesn't always make sense, it's definitely not always fair, and it is most certainly important to create space to talk about.
When you let people walk alongside you through life, you invite others into the suffering you experience, and that's beautiful and hard and something I so admire the way Mary continues to do.
MARY RECCOMENDS
MUSIC
Mary shares a lot about the impact of music in her grieving journey: here is her own playlist if you want to check it out look up: “TRUSTING123” playlist on Apple Music
Mary contributed the following songs on the Shame Shift playlist as well :)
Thank God I do by Lauren Daigle
Firm Foundation (He won’t) by Cody Carnes
Be Okay by Lauren Daigle
RESOURCES
Never Alone Widows exists to love the widow well through weekend encounters, national gatherings, local chapters and online resources.
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THE SHAME SHIFT CONSIDERATION GUIDE
You know when someone asks you to share your story and you have no idea where to begin? The hope for this consideration guide is to allow you to take a look at the challenges you’ve gone through and incorporate the themes of suffering into your story in a way that shifts suffering from something you don’t want to talk about to when you do have the opportunity to talk about it you feel confident, secure, and open to the possibilities your story holds.
THE SHAME SHIFT SPOTIFY PLAYLIST
THE SHAME SHIFT PLAYLIST IS CURATED TO MEET YOU IN THE MIDDLE OF WHATEVER LIFE THROWS AT YOU. EVERY WEEK THE PLAYLIST WILL GROW AS GUESTS WILL CONTRIBUTE SONGS THAT HAVE BEEN MEANINGFUL TO THEM DURING CHALLENGING TIMES! YOU CAN LISTEN HERE OR FOLLOW ALONG ON SPOTIFY AS THE SHAME SHIFT PLAYLIST GROWS THROUGHOUT THIS SEASON.